What does the end result of your hopes and dreams and goals really look like? Do you know?

Without knowing exactly, to the tee, what your desired outcome will be … what do you have to hold on to when the going gets tough?

Most of us resort to thinking what we don’t want when we are faced with a challenge and low and behold, what we usually get in response to that is temporary relief but ultimately we never really solve the issue and it always resurfaces!

Take trying to lose weight. You are having a bad day and you want to eat that tuna fish sandwich to soothe your pain, but you know it’s not good for you and it will blow your plan. So do you visualize your lean, strong, sleek new physique to help you get past it? Or do you think about why you can’t have it and get pissed and feel crappy enough to for sure not eat it now!!!

Do you see how the two scenarios will have a completely different outcome both in the short run and the long run?

Let me know your thoughts on this.

Life in the Fat Lane

Being the last one picked by the team captain for kick ball sucks.  Not being able to zip your jeans sucks.  Name calling sucks.  Ugly clothes suck.  Being ignored really sucks.

But nothing sucks more that being fat.  Being fat sucks.  It really does.  I know what it feels like to be humiliated because no one wanted me on their team in gym class.  And let me tell you, the dates for prom weren’t exactly line up outside my door.  People have commented or whispered about my appearance an my size, and I spent years wishing that I could do anything, anything, besides try on another pair of jeans that didn’t fit.  I felt invisible, not included and not notices, when I was in a group.  Well, I guess you could say that I wasn’t quite invisible because, to be honest, it was hard to miss me.  I was fat.

Life in the fat lane sucks.  It’s a life that revolves around food.  Food was got the reason for my problems and the answer to my problems.  I used it for both punishment and reward.  My reliance on it as an emotional vice made it both my comfort and my misery.

Becoming a “big girl”, I was soon faced with self esteem issues that were directly related to my weight and my looks.  But, my weight and looks weren’t the problem, it was how I felt about them that was the most devastating.  The majority of those thoughts and feeling were self defeating and negative, creating even lower self esteem and continuing the cycle of feeling bad, eating, and then feeling even worse because I did.  The cycle repeated itself like shampoo directions, “lather, rinse, repeat”; except, my cycle read “eat, regret, repeat, eat, regret, repeat”.  There were no directions telling me how or when to stop.

Life in the fat lane slowed me down.  It killed my confidence as my weight continually subjected me to the intolerance and disapproval too many overweight people face every day.  I learned the hard way how it felt to be completely ignored by people, even if I was standing right next to them.  My opinions held little weight, simply because I was overweight.  Too often, I felt like the world had excused me from participating in life, dismissing my feeling, thoughts and presence.  And it was mostly because I was fat.

Hello!

Because when you hear someone say “ex”-husband or “ex”-lover or “ex”-roommate… do you think they are coming back?  No!  It’s done, it’ over, bye-bye!

If I say, I used to be fat, or I lost weight… that even sounds like it’s temporary.  When you lose something you long for it’s return… right?  When you used to be something, it’s usually something you value, like I used to be a marathon runner, but I can’t do that anymore… but you would love to return to that time in life… right?
Well, can I be perfectly honest with you? I never, ever, EVER want to be FAT again!!

The pain associated with being fat is something I do not want to experience in my life ever again.  The shame, the self loathing… and it’s not just when I was topping the scales at 200 lbs!  When I was 30 lbs overweight, I still looked at myself in the mirror with  judgment and disgust.  Hard as I tried to accept myself… I was always trying to cover up my fatness with clothing or being funny to be liked or just not going to events so I wouldn’t have to be seen or even worse, have to find clothes that don’t make me look fat!

Now, I am an ex-fat person…  Big X!

My mission in life is to create a whole network of ex-fat people who walk, talk and act like people who refuse to return to a life of pain, sadness, and shame. People who are no longer willing to be quiet about the huge problem fat is in a person’s life and in the lives of everyone they know and love!

In our society here in the US, we are conditioned to sugar coat the truth about health problems, money problems and even relationship problems.  We don’t want people to know we have problems or to upset them for fear they will think badly of us.  Am I right?

NO! In this country obesity is on the rise and no one is screaming about it… I am here today to scream about it.  Fat is not in!  Fat is ugly!  Fat is unhealthy!

It is so much easier to stay skinny than anything being fat ever was!!!

All adults:  133.6 million  (66%)
Women:  65 million  (61.6%)
Men:  68.3 million  (70.5%)

My mission is to bring FATness out in the open as a permanently reversible situation and form a strong, reality based group of people who want to become ex-fat people also!  In that process, introduce, mentor, coach and assist people who want to be thin and healthy to add the nutritional cleansing and replenishing program into their life to allow them to experience the unbelievably carefree, fun, confident, healthy lifestyle that goes along with losing the weight and maintaining it for a lifetime!

To learn more, enter your information below and you will be emailed a link to a website that will tell you more about it and help you decide if you are finally ready to make a permanent change and enjoy the benefits of being healthy both physically and mentally.

My intention in writing this book is to help people start talking honestly and frankly about the many ways being fat is killing our people emotionally, physically and psychologically!!!