I call it a sad state of affairs… Stop the madness!
When will people begin to take responsibility for themselves and deal with the consequences of their actions and choices?
*Umm… this is a sensitive topic… weight. Well, a woman in Dekalb County, Georgia had a pretty embarrassing moment at a local nail salon.
Michelle Fonville got a pedi and mani, and got her brows done. And when she was handed the bill she got a very unpleasant surprise – a $5 surcharge.
At first she was a bit confused about the bill and informed the person in charge, saying there was a mistake made.
She was corrected by the salon manager, who told her it was no mistake. It was a new charge they established for overweight people.
Yes, for fat people. She explained to the customer who nearly broke down in tears, that people who exceeded the 200-pound capacity for the salon chairs were costing her big money to keep those chairs in operation – $2,500 each!
Well, the time came to get a new computer after having spent hours and a few too many dollars wrestling with detecting the problem, virus scanning and ultimately installing a new hard drive during the holiday at the end of 2009. Kept me out of the fridge though!
So here I am in February and the same things start showing up: slowing of the system, “not responding” messages and just plain freezing up! The truth reveals itself to me louder than ever: “Lisa, it’s time to stop spending time and money on fixing it and just buy a brand new computer!”
So I did and I am absolutely elated!
My curiosity is, why does it sometimes take getting hit over the head or another such profound awakening metaphor to make us move in the direction that is ultimately forward? Why are we so quick to fall back into complacency and futility?
Of course I am relating this to weight and health, you know that right?
I was talking with my wonderful partner of 10 years last night and we were pondering why it is so difficult for people to change their behaviours that no longer work for them and adopt new behaviors that are better suited for the current situation including their new dreams and desires for their life. In talking about it I realized that most people just want to stop one thing and begin another the next day. It just doesn’t happen that way!
I'm no good at this game! I can't even hit the ball! This game is no fun and frankly... I quit!
What does the end result of your hopes and dreams and goals really look like? Do you know?
Without knowing exactly, to the tee, what your desired outcome will be … what do you have to hold on to when the going gets tough?
Most of us resort to thinking what we don’t want when we are faced with a challenge and low and behold, what we usually get in response to that is temporary relief but ultimately we never really solve the issue and it always resurfaces!
Take trying to lose weight. You are having a bad day and you want to eat that tuna fish sandwich to soothe your pain, but you know it’s not good for you and it will blow your plan. So do you visualize your lean, strong, sleek new physique to help you get past it? Or do you think about why you can’t have it and get pissed and feel crappy enough to for sure not eat it now!!!
Do you see how the two scenarios will have a completely different outcome both in the short run and the long run?
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” – President Barak Obama
I am so moved by this quote I had to share it with you.
There is no person or thing that will change your life for you in ways that you are so longing for other than you. You are the change you are looking for. You are the one.
I recently heard this metaphor about change that I also want to share with you: If you want milk, you can’t just go stand in a field and wait for a cow to come up to you… you have to seek it, find it and get it!
Hope you are inspired to take action on making that changes that you really really want in your life… starting NOW!
• Give the cashier the extra money she gave you by mistake
• Write a report in your own words instead of copying
• Admit you made the mistake
• Keep a friend’s secret
• Turn in a wallet full of money that you found
• Admit your faults to yourself and do your best to become a better person
and more…
My most profound day of complete honesty with myself came the day I admitted I was really unhappy with what I had allowed myself to become and that Being Fat Sucks!
I have been through some very interesting lessons of late in my professional life with the way people handle things and to what level are they willing to be honest and take responsibility for what they do and how it effects others. The results have sometimes reminded me of the way I used to avoid the truth about how food was my enemy and my friend from one moment to the next. It also replayed for me the time when I finally found the courage to be honest with myself about how being me… Being Fat… Sucks!
That truth absolutely made it possible for me to finally deal with my pain and sorrow head on.
Why do people cloud the truth? Why do we try to blame instead of accepting what is our contribution to the situation and fixing that?
Stop dieting to lose weight and start eating a good diet to gain health!
What more can I say?
That’s why when I woke up that day and the truth of my situation really hit me… that being me, being fat me… Being Fat Sucks! it all got very simple. I no long complicated it with excuses and justifying why I was doing things to sabotage my good health and my happiness.
“It doesn’t matter where I am today… because I am taking action to get me to where I want to be tomorrow.”
That quote is one that got me through my times of frustration, exhaustion and despair after I admitted to my self that Being Fat Sucks! and I wasn’t going to live another year of my life that way.
I had to change my way of thinking to change my life.
Wow, the weather has gotten so nice the past few days here in Northern California and it takes me back to a time when the warm weather made me unhappy because I could no longer wear big baggie sweaters to cover up my fatness.
That’s why I am so excited about getting my book Being Fat Suck! out to other people who are so tired of the pain and shame that goes along with being fat.
Being Fat Sucks! but life doesn’t have to anymore!
